Baby, Just Slow Down

Do you often find yourself putting others before yourself? Find yourself jumping in and out of relationships or even yearning for that feeling of love?

In life, these situations can be signs of low self-esteem or lack in self love.

So I ask you this today, Are you infatuated with yourself or infatuated with the attention received from others?

Over the years of dating, I’ve seen it all from good guys to the one’s whom I had absolutely no business giving them my number.Eventually, you become frustrated because you aren’t impressed by these guys who dread you constantly by not wasting your time, but somewhere down the line your time is being wasted and you find yourself saying “I’m over dating.” Then, I had to take the time out and realize that I became frustrated with myself more than anything because I was just dating to fill a void after a relationship. I simply say that to say this……

Usually, when coming out of a relationship you can either feel heartbroken or relieved especially coming from being in a relationship that didn’t allow you to have any space to be free. I always tell my peers, I never understood when one get out of a relationship and instantly appears to be in another one; whether it is male or female. It’s makes me wonder well is this person looking for love in all of the wrong places or do they get a thrill out of the attention from someone else. I think any breakup should be every  women or male stepping stone to finding yourself.

To embrace self-love, find out what makes you happy/ find your “nitch”. Rushing into another relationship may not be a good idea for a couple of reasons:

1.) Same mistakes; same results: Maybe it isn’t them; it is you! You rushed into this relationship and you know nothing about this person. Take the time to find out what’s your type and preference. Maybe you rushing can lead to short term romance.

2.) You don’t even know yourself- We all are on this earth for a purpose. Questioning yourself daily is human. So ask yourself, What is my purpose? What do I want out of life? Finding hobbies and getting in touch with yourself can bring you pure happiness. No other feeling is better than that love you have within and eventually someone will see what you see in yourself, which is the cherry on the pie.

I want those who are reading this to manifest into loving yourself. How can you expect someone to love you and you have not one ounce of happiness within. So as I conclude this, make sure that you are in love with you before you seek it.

XoXo,

Lady K

 

 

 

Life After the Institution

The day that you’ve worked so hard for has finally arrived. The anticipation is over, the assignments are out of your misery and the annoying emails from professors are all at a cease. Why? Because it’s your graduation day !

                            The question that matters the most is….“Are you ready for the real world?”

Coming from a recent college graduate perspective, having a degree under your belt is an astounding feeling ; true indeed.

Yet, it’s up to you to prioritize your path.

Life definitely changes after college, for the good or for the worst. This is all in your hands at this point.

Your freshman year of college, you are thrilled and eager for the independence you are about to experience. At the age of 18 (originally the age of all freshmen) are you truly ready to make up your mind and decide what you want to study for four years of being in school? Most would say they already know what they want to be/do after college and then there are those who are in college and undecided.

I’m here to tell you there is nothing wrong with that, BUT by your sophomore year get in the groove of knowing what you want out of life. The worst thing possible you can do is continuously switch majors. You are doing nothing but setting yourself up and back from 1.) Graduating on time 2.) YOUR DREAMS!

It is always important to network and work on your craft while you are in college. Now, I’m not saying if you decide to network and  work on your craft after college that you have a less chance of success, which is definitely FALSE ! Just saying use school to your best ability. I mean come on now, you are paying for this sky rocket tuition. Right? Why let your money go to waste by bullshitting? Your college years, are your fun years, of course yes. Yet, they are also the years you gain simplicity in learning how to make a living after college.

There were plenty of times I ( a Journalism/Communications major) sat in my Math 109, Biology 101 and Chemistry 101 classes, with my eyes in the back of my head in frustration wondering what in Sams hell does this crap have to do with me being a producer or a reporter. Guess what!? No matter how much I tried to find the good in these classes the cons always outweighed the pro’s.

It wasn’t until the day I found out that I was really graduating that those classes are examples of obstacles we need to overcome to get to our sense of peace.

All of my college students are familiar with PREREQUISITE courses. Those annoying courses we have to take in order to graduate.

These classes are similar to some life situations. In life we do things that may seem trivial, but we know that sometimes you gotta do what you gotta do to get to the top.

Lost by this comparison?

Let me be more vague with you…..

You are in your last semester, taking 21 plus credits just to get the heck out of school. Along with these 21 credits, you have an intern in your field that you may land a job at. So, you have your supervisor from your intern hounding you with emails on things to do before you even enter the door. In all reality you want to go crazy, but you remain calm because you know that this is an opportunity that can benefit you and YOU HAVE TO DO WHAT YOU GOT TO DO IN ORDER TO GET WHAT YOU WANT. Little do you know your supervisor been having her eyes on your and admire your dedication as an intern. Unexpectedly, you are called in your supervisor office and she slides you a folder and simply ask, “The day after graduation, will you be willing to work full time?”

Any college student would be full of happiness. You can be this intern. Moral of this is sometimes you have to go through hell to get to where you want to be in life.

Senior students often begin filling out job applications during the month of their graduation.

DON’T YOU DARE SET YOURSELF UP!!!!! 

Waiting this late can lead to unemployment after college, which can lead to post grad depression.

The jobs that may call you quickly are the data entry jobs, call center jobs, retailers and marketing jobs. Basically all the jobs you didn’t sit four or in my case five years of college for. Never settle and be desperate.

KNOW YOUR WORTH! 

Statistics prove that most college students are supposed to be on a salary range from $32,00-$45,00 after college. Wow! That’s a pretty penny for someone fresh out of college. So make that pretty penny and strive to your best ability.

After college, the whole “I’M A BROKE COLLEGE STUDENT” excuse is 6 feet under. What’s your excuse now? None! So go get it and whatever you do; Don’t let your degree go to waste.

Build your brand and push it until you get the recognition you’ve been striving for!

College is the way to go, but let’s take a little look at someone like Jay-Z, you don’ need it to become successful.

You need determination and confidence to be successful.

Either way…….

LET’S PROSPER AND GET THIS SCHMONEYYYY!

                      XoXo,

Lady K

Dont Ignore the Signs

 

 

IT’S AQUARIUS SEASON! Jan. 20- Feb. 18

Dear Aquarius,

              The stars align you to be sociable today, but not too sociable. You often find yourself putting others before your own desires. Yet, when an Aquarius become fed up with being optimistic they become subordinate to others and it’s hard to shake this feeling from an Aquarius. (They are very “stuck in their ways” people.) Everything you do in your free time can’t be about helping other people, you’ll lose control of your own personal growth. It’s only the 5th day into the month and people that you were supposed to been remove out of your life are constantly finding ways to pop-up in your life and become irritable to you. As much as you still see potential in that person, they are becoming a hindrance to your growth and your character.

         Furthermore, Aquarius male and females are very AMBITIOUS! By any means necessary, they will be the provider, yet feel overwhelmed. I’m here to tell you that the year of 2016 is yours! You can no longer take on the responsibility of others happiness. Let this be the  year that you minimize your devotion for someone who your intuition told you a couple months ago to let go and you become financially unavailable.

                                                                                                           XoXo,

                                                                                                        Lady K

Snow Don’t Stop the Show!

Want to build a snowman or look like one?

I often ask my friends and coworkers, “What season do you gain weight the most?”

Majority of them believe that they gain most of their weight in the winter time. How many of my readers can agree?

During the winter months, it’s Jack Frost outside and the blizzards are in rare form. All of the activities you enjoy doing when the weather is pleasant are cut to a minimum when it’s below zero outdoors.

So this lead to being home with a fridge full of food, the nearest pizza/sub shop menu on your kitchen counter, nice glass of Sweet Bitch (for the red wine lovers) or my ultimate favorite Pink Moscato wine and a nice Netflix account is all that’s needed.

Then after the second day of being snowed in, you become the “boredom eater”; meaning at this point you are just eating out of boredom.

There are some healthy snacks and meals posted below you can eat until the snow melts away and you are no longer a prisoner in your own home.

Since we are always creeping back and forth in the cabinets to see what’s new in there, as if we didn’t look a hour ago when we were in the kitchen grabbing the Doritos.

Here are some simple healthy snacks you can make:

Apple Cookies- Of course you want some Golden Oreo cookies or my favorite Chips Ahoy chocolate chip cookies, but you also promised yourself that poppin’ body. Apple cookies are such a easy one minute snack that you will love.

WHAT YOU NEED:

• One or two apples, depending on how good they are you might need two apples.
• Nutella or Peanut Butter
• This is the creative part! You can add pretzel pieces, trail mix and granola to add more fun and spice.

Now, you have your Apple Cookies! Share and Enjoy!

Smoothies!

Yes, it’s cold out, but you want a nice healthy smoothie to drink around the house.

Here’s a smoothie I recently researched and added my own spice to it! I call it the Pink Panther!

What you need:

 

1 cup frozen unsweetened raspberries

1 cup frozen unsweetened strawberries

1 cup orange juice

1/2 cup plain 2% reduced-fat Greek yogurt

2 tablespoons agave syrup

* I WOULDN’T ADD ANY ALCOHLIC BEVERAGE. REMEMBER LIQUOR CONTAINS OVER 100 CALORIES*

THE CLASSIC PARFAIT !

All you need is the basics !

• strawberries, bananas, blueberries
• bag of granola
• Greek yogurt or any type of plain yogurt (you can spice it up by adding flavored yogurt to bring more flavor to your parfait !

DINNER TIME!

Now your appetite has increased and ordering a pizza or Chinese food is the first thing that pop in your head to order! Say No To Bad Foods!

My favorite diet meal is Salmon, Sweet potatoes and asparagus or broccoli!

What You Need:

• bag of salmon filets (no specific brand whatever you prefer)
• fresh hand picked asparagus
• Whole sweet potatoes (if you like white potatoes that’s okay to use as well)
• Olive oil (which is more healthier than canola oil or non-sticking spray like PAM)

For the  baked sweet potatoes:

Preheat your oven to 380; this way your sweet potato(s) will cook thoroughly and faster.

Place in oven on small baking pan.

Give it a  1 1/2to bake.

In the meantime, place brown sugar or cinnamon and a tad bit of butter on the counter. This will bring the flavor to your potato!

For the salmon:

Aluminum foil and a small baking pan

slightly spray the foil with PAM

garlic powder/salt

lemon herb

Obay

Italian seasoning

Oregano

Miss Dash seasoning

For the sautéed asparagus:

1/2 of olive oil

let the pan simmer for 3 mins then place your asparagus in the pan

• 1 tablespoon of garlic NOT THE SALT/POWDER! ACTUAL GARLIC
• 1 tablespoon of salt and pepper

Before you know it, it’s time to devour your mouth watering meal !

I hope that some of my healthy meal and snacks pointers helped you through these next winter months.

Stay posted to THE K FACTORY, more delicious ingredients soon to come !

Your body is your temple! Treat it with royalty!

-Lady Kxoxo

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

90 Days or 90 hours?

Count of hands, how many of my lovely readers actually make a person wait before you both move to the intimate level?

Inquiring minds would like to know, was this decision based off Steve Harvey? or Were you already apart of #team90days?

So, your crush finally recognizes you and you are as happy as a kid in Toys R’ Us! Now you are thinking, so what next?

Finally, being approached by or approaching the person you have been attracted to for the longest has to be one of the most thrilling feeling ever. All of these months you have been wondering how this person is really like and the possibilities you both have in a relationship. Your mind is in a frenzy at this point.

Have you ever thought that your “like” for a person can be more extreme like a……. LUST?

Think about it, you were attracted to this person for a reason and not even heard their voice not once. Maybe, you are attracted to them in the physical and not in the mental. Ha! Didn’t think about that did you?

These feelings are possible, let me break down to you how to last at least 90 days…..

• That thrill when you first start dating someone is indescribable. You often find yourself rambling on about him/her to your friends.
• This leads to anticipation. Anticipation leads to overthinking.
• If you are overthinking, I’m here to tell you and beg you……… STOP!
• Coming from a female perspective, when we overthink, WE OVERTHINK. For an instance, the guy can go a whole day without calling us and we instantly think the worst. Where there is nothing to possibly think about.
• Going with the flow is definitely the way to go and feeding off each others energy. Make sure that you both have mutual feelings for one another. There’s no one way street to this! 

Back to what we are really here for…. THE WAIT!

There is no such thing as waiting to have sex with someone you like because that may lead to longevity between the both of you.

That is definitely an outrageous myth that seems to be non-existent in today’s’ society.

You can have sex with a person within weeks or even a month prior meeting them and that shouldn’t determine you guys’ relationship.

So what if you did wait 90 days with that person then their actions change? Did that rule really apply?

Go with what you see in front of you! You may actually fall in love with that person without even touching them. When it’s the right person, you will know and sex will be the last thing you both are worried about. Of course that will eventually come, but enjoy getting to know one another first!

Do what you feel is right, but make sure it’s with the right person!

-Lady K

Feel free to comment; I’M EAGER FOR YOU RESPONSES!

New Year, New You? New Year, Same You?

 

We hear the line every December when the year is narrowing down to January 1st, “This upcoming year, It’s going to be a new me.”

Are you one of those people who find yourself constantly making new year resolutions, writing them down in your journal and by the middle of the year those goals somehow vanished? Did you make a promise to yourself that this is the year you are going to get that gym membership you were supposed to get last New Year? I can go on but, at this point I’m making you reminisce on your goals that you let drift away …

This can be a case of PROCRASTINATION !

There is a cure for this:

It’s called the Less Talk, More Action Dosage!

Let’s be honest sometimes we vision our future to perfection to the point you have everything mapped out and planned, but in all reality it’s you that are in the way of accomplishing your goals.

After a while, a person hearing what you’re “Going to do” becomes tiresome and eventually it goes through one ear and out the other.

Procrastinator’s are individuals who are easily distracted from what’s important, put things off for a late time, slacking, shunning away from work/projects. Procrastination is definitely a bad habit that can sneak up on you and only you have the power to break this habit.

I can only give you this advice from a first person point of view; simply because I am a recovering procrastinator. Sounds funny, but I’m very serious.

There were times when I literally wrote down , discussed and even started my goals, then something minor came and kidnapped my attention. It couldn’t have been anything that was benefiting my future, but I let that minor distraction hinder the goals I was supposed to accomplish three years ago.

Although procrastination is a bad habit that American often encounter in their daily lives, it’s always a positive in every situation. It isn’t too late ! Never let your dreams die! Yes, you let yourself down by putting off that business plan you had mapped out, not getting that gym membership, not applying to school or even finishing school; but I am here to tell you IT’S NOT TOO LATE! GET TO IT!

HERE ARE SOME TIPS ON OVERCOMING PROCRASTINATION

1. WHILE IT’S ON YOUR MIND; DO IT RIGHT THEN !- You have an assignment due in 2 weeks. Two weeks sounds like a lovely grace period doesn’t it? Not! Now you’re into the week your assignment is due and now your stress level is through the roof because you let phone calls from your friends for a happy hour intervene  with that possible A+ or compliment from your boss hinder what matters the most. Moral of your procrastination dilemma:  DO IT NOW!
2. MAYBE IT’S NOT YOU maybe it’s your surroundings. Ex. Is it possible for you to study in the library when someone next to you is on the phone? Sometimes the places we plant ourselves and even the people we associate with have a huge impact on you and your procrastination. Taking a break from your friends, cleaning your territory regularly, find a place you can find comfort in then that may break you from your distractions.
3. SET IT AND STICK TO IT! Make a deadline for yourself. Using this technique, there’s a slight chance that you will never forget. Remember this is the deadline YOU made up, set the record and meet this deadline for YOU. Definite guarantee that you will be proud of yourself.
4. Seeking advice Those moments when you are telling yourself, “Ehh that can wait”, are the moments that what you waited to do, will never get done.
5. Motivate Yourself!-  No need to elaborate…….. You are your biggest cheerleader. Do this for you and no one else!

I hope those five slight tips will motivate you to lose your title as a procrastinator!

If you have any helpful hints, feel free to comment below in the “How you feeling? box!

 

 

 

 

 

You Are In For A Treat….!

Hello Lovely Viewers!

You have entered “The K Factory”. The name originated from my first name Kameree ; and factory is basically self explanatory. My purpose of The K Factory is to touch basis on things that male and female go through in their everyday lives. The K Factory will allow you to read and interpret your opinions/experiences.

My logic varies on Love, Relationship, Life Decisions, Social lifestyle, beauty and a host of other fun facts just to keep you guys interested.

I don’t condone judging! So once again, welcome to The K Factory, where this is a judge free zone. I want my readers to be eager and visit my blog and look at it as their comfort zone.

I believe in being what you can be to your best ability. Others opinions of you shouldn’t determine your mood. Constructive Criticism should always be motivation.

So, Be Who You Are, Be Great At It !

Let’s Blog and See What’s Poppin’ in The K Factory!

 

Lady K